You’ve updated your resume, applied to a few positions, and things are starting to move. Then comes the part that trips a lot of people up: references. Most job seekers know they need them, but when it comes to actually reaching out and asking someone to speak on their behalf, it can feel surprisingly uncomfortable. What do you say? Who do you ask? What if it’s been years?
It doesn’t have to be that hard. With a little thought and a straightforward approach, asking for a reference can actually be a great opportunity to reconnect and remind people of the value you bring.
Choose the Right People
A strong reference is someone who has seen your work up close and can speak to it with specifics. Former managers are the gold standard, but former coworkers, mentors, or even clients can work well depending on the role you’re applying for.
Avoid listing people just because you’ve known them a long time. A reference who can say “she consistently delivered projects ahead of deadline” is worth far more than one who can only say “I’ve known him for years and he’s a great guy.” Think about who actually knows what you’re capable of professionally.
Ask Before You Apply, Not After
One of the most common mistakes is waiting until a potential employer asks for references before reaching out to them. By then you’re scrambling, your reference is caught off guard, and there’s no time to prepare them well.
Reach out early. Give your references a heads up that you’re job searching, let them know the kinds of roles you’re pursuing, and ask if they’d be comfortable vouching for you. Most people are happy to help when they’re given a little notice and context.
Keep the Ask Simple and Direct
People often overthink the wording. You don’t need a long, elaborate message. A short, honest note works just fine. Something like: “Hi [Name], I hope you’re doing well. I’m currently exploring some new career opportunities and I’d love to list you as a reference if you’re open to it. I can share more details about the roles I’m applying for so you have some context. No pressure at all, just wanted to ask first.”
That’s it. Direct, respectful, and easy for them to say yes to.
Give Them What They Need to Say the Right Things
Once someone agrees, don’t just say thank you and disappear. Give them a little background. Share the job description or at least a summary of the role, remind them of a project or accomplishment you worked on together, and let them know what qualities the employer is looking for.
You’re not coaching them on what to say. You’re giving them the context to speak about you accurately and confidently. That makes a real difference in how specific and compelling your reference sounds on the other end of the phone.
Follow Up and Say Thank You
After the process is over, whether you got the job or not, circle back with your references and let them know how things went. A quick thank you goes a long way. It shows respect for their time and keeps the relationship warm for the future.
References aren’t a one-time transaction. The people willing to speak up for you professionally are some of the most valuable connections you have. Treat them accordingly.
How Employment Solutions Can Help
At Employment Solutions, we help job seekers think through every part of the process, including the steps that don’t always get talked about. We know what local employers are looking for and we can help you put your best foot forward from your resume all the way through your references.
Your next opportunity might be closer than you think. Reach out to Employment Solutions today and let’s take the next step together.
